Perception of life

I do visit Nicole's blog now and then for some readings. Just recently, she updated her blog with a post pertaining to her friend's situation of being pregnant and receive no love from her husband and husband's family. My mind is haunted all the while after reading her post. I really pity the girl and her helpless situation. To not be loved, it's the most disheartening state anyone could bear. Some more, she is pregnant with a child of her husband, making the situation even worse.

As per my humble opinion about life, it is all about being love and to love. Of course, if you're loved, you're the enjoying the best the world has to offer you. To love, it's not a bad thing either. It's the matter whether you enjoy the process of loving someone else or otherwise.

Being brought up in used-to-be-a-non-Christian-family, I learnt something invaluable in the past 17 years after i accepted God in my life. I am a Methodist Christian and being a Methodist, it's all about tradition. Compare all you can among the others, Methodist sticks the most to all the rules, hierarchy and etc and i used to think that that was sooo boring. But, as i grew up, i realised being traditional doesn't do me harm. In fact, it keeps me safe. Safe from..? I dont know. At least, i am sure it doesn't and hasn't do me any harm.

If you take a look at how things happen under the sky, they all happen in order. In the way that He had already planned them. If one uses force to make a step ahead of how things ought to be, one needs to be ready to bear the consequences of doing so. It's all fair. One gets pregnant before marriage, one needs to bear the consequences. Why one wants to change the procedure? I think the main reason is human like excitement. They need some changes to make life seems more interesting. Life is dull. And repetitive. So one tries to skip a step and step ahead BUT the timing isn't right in His plan. That's fine. There's no actual law or regulation saying one cannot do that. Go ahead. But, everything that we do, there are responsibilities and consequences for us to bear. Now, it's the matter of whether or not the responsibilities are just good or beyond one's limit.

One point that i strongly hold my belief in and that is if the old customary and traditional marriage can survive for thousands of years, there must be a great reason behind it. And i'm definitely not saying that if you get married, life is going to be a bed of roses for you. It's just to be safe than sorry. To be pregnany before marriage, all the rest is about responsibility. And of course, to follow the old tradition to get married before having kids, you have the great L~O~V~E as a stronghold between the couple to overcome any sufferings and difficulties that might get in the way when the responsibilities lay upon you.

Dont get me wrong. I still pity the girl of her situation.